You’re intelligent, reasonably attractive, have a good sense of humor and style and yet all you ever attract are a bunch of losers. Sound familiar? Are you seemingly always jumping from the frying pan to the fire when it comes to relationships with one souring badly only to go into another with the same or worse ending?
Here are some possible mistakes you may be making without realizing it.
- Not prioritizing yourself
There may be many options out there in the dating world. But don’t sit on the sidelines waiting while the person you are dating happily plays the field. Don’t hand your heart over if the person you’re seeing does not place an equal value on the relationship. Make sure you’re on the same page or else move on.
- There is no need to give multiple chances to someone who continuously disappoints and disrespects you
Everyone screws up sometimes but if it keeps happening again and again it’s no longer a mistake and there is no need to keep giving the benefit of the doubt to someone who hurts you all the time and keep forgiving them and putting up with the same.
- Boundaries are there for a reason, stop moving them and bending them all over the place
Yes one must be flexible at times but not to the point where you keep moving the goal post for something that is really important to you just to accommodate the needs of a significant other. If commitment/marriage is important to you and you keep allowing your partner to say no and agreeing to ‘postpone’ things indefinitely it sends a message that it’s not important to you so why should it be important to them.
- Expecting to be ‘looked after’ financially
If you’re being supported financially by your partner, be prepared to be seen as just another item that is expandable and can be purchased. Yes it’s nice to get gifts and presents but it’s also important to show that you’re more than able to take care of yourself and that you’re financially independent.
You will also find that when you’re not looking for someone to ‘support you’ your dating pool expands significantly.
- Don’t see your partner as someone you need to fix.
Don’t try to fix him, commitment phobic? Maybe you will be the one to change that. Peter-pan syndrome? Maybe you can get him out of that. No, it’s not your job to fix a grown man. Don’t waste your precious time and energy to make someone normal, finding normal is a lot easier.
- Don’t hide and minimise yourself
Don’t minimise yourself to satisfy another person’s ego. A man or woman should be able to accept you as you are. There is no need to constantly play yourself down to make the other person feel good especially if you may have more accomplishments than them. It’s good to be humble but there is no need to minimise yourself to such an extent that you no longer recognize yourself.
- Be very clear about what you want
If you want to get married and settle down, it is high time you stop dating emotionally unavailable men no matter how hot, interesting or intellectual they may be. You’re wasting your time and setting yourself up for heartbreak down the road.
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